"now what? "
many people these days are asking this question silently or out loud, specially the ones who had a busy holiday season starting with a lot of preparation for Christmas and New Year's Eve (in this order or a reversed one for Egyptians and Armenians) then the fun started and they enjoyed one event after the other with big family gatherings, church activities, traveling, outings, huge meals, lots of gifts, days off, and a daily routine of no routine at all.
- salty: it comes and goes like waves, you can wash it away with a sip of water or any other beverage of your choice, it doesn't taste too bad after all but too much of it can't be tolerated without taking action and fighting back, it's hard enough to swim against the current but swimming in the Dead Sea will have consequences
- sweet: it's your best friend now, you've known each other for such a long time that when you're apart for an hour or a day or a week you miss it and feel so glad when it's back, after all, this friend is the only way for you to know you're still alive, if you feel too much happiness there's a chance that you're already dead and missed the "Welcome To Heaven" sign
- sour: it doesn't check if you like lemons or not, you don't get to pick and choose the flavor of your depression, or else depression would be served in ice-cream cones. it's forced on you and you have to get used to the acidic sting no matter how strong. well, you can still balance it somehow just make sure to plan well and select your pills carefully, an ulcer in your heart is no fun either
- bitter: it's the worst kind because it means that it's deep inside your mouth, will last longer, and nothing can top that flavor no matter how hard you try. this flavor usually is attached to loss... great major irreversible loss... it's capable of engraving more aging lines on your face than the ones that actual time draws over the course of long years
the single one tradition that i miraculously and with great determination and hard work have managed to keep for 8 years (even before the kids were born) is the family photo we take at Christmas time (so that we can attach it to an annual e-mail we send to a long contact list of family and friends around the world).
the first 3 years, this photo seemed like something normal and easy to do, but when the kids arrived it became much harder yet even more important to me.
not only the Christmas photo gained major importance in my life, but any nice (and preferably professional) photos we take because i started to get addicted to having nice photos. why? because that's how i could still tell expecting mothers and single girls how wonderful motherhood is: "you get to have amazing photos of and with your kids" i tend to stop here and leave out the rest of this sentence "then when you're down, which is pretty much all the time, you can ruminate over these photos. i.e look at them for as looooong as you neeeeed"...
no one captures your down moments, you don't grab the camera when you're crying your eyes out on the bathroom floor or when you wake up in the morning (after re-defining the terms "sleep" and "morning") and say: "oh i cried myself to sleep so now that i'm awake i should take a picture of myself"... no NIKON or CANON or any top brand camera can shoot long lonely nights, days that seem to have no end, and very i mean VERY deep thoughts and fears about life and the tiny creature in your arms (i told you, it's easier to be lonely alone than be lonely with a dependent extremely helpless mini-human)... no photo has a sound attached to it (this is a different kind of thing called videos if i remember correctly) so it can never detect the volume of your voice as you lose it and start yelling at the kids for a reason so tiny yet mighty enough to unleash layers of depressed frustration...you never take photos of food stains on the carpet or vomit on the floor... (actually i did take photos of my son's first, you know, inside the potty... and my daughter's too two years later... wait, can i call that a "traditional photo?" it's even better than the real moment because it's fragrance free)... so i've started to look forward to family pictures and pictures of my babies with cute outfits selected and sent by their grandparents, aunts, uncles and dear friends... pictures i take of a completed LEGO shape or a neatly colored picture or a doll so tenderly tucked in it's bed or of them both playing peacefully together (have to get that captured really fast before WWIII starts... again) i call that "selective photography"... only moments that i want to remember because they are so easy to forget and get buried under piles and piles of OTHER moments which tend to be unforgettable... by their harsh nature... sticky, liquidy, disgusting, frustrating.... the etc. etc. moments
and THIS year, none of our family members abroad could fly to Egypt or visit Alex, we couldn't go anywhere or celebrate the season in a special way, the kids took turns getting sick and my daughter's fever reached 41 C on New Year's Eve, i was already depressed even before Christmas thinking of Syrian displaced children who are literally freezing to death during a very bad snow storm, and those in areas under siege who are literally dying of hunger... so i did have high hopes for the Christmas family photo this year and instead of one we had several great photos, motherhood at it's best huh? ... but after spending so much time looking at these photos and shaking them off to capture the magic dust till the very last spec, depression crept in once again, mine is a polite one, it rings the bell and knocks at the door and everything but when i don't answer it finds its way in, it has a name"post Christmas photo depression" (no you can't google this one) and it comes with a blend of flavors, a triple S and a dominant B (3SB or maybe BS times three!)